Lifestyle Desk: Some love, others build a house due to family decision. He dreams that after marriage, there will be a happy family, both of them will belong to each other. If you laugh, you will live a romantic life. When there is good understanding between husband and wife, then the family is happy. Then the happiness of heaven is found on earth. But even if you build a house with full of hope and colorful dreams, it doesn't always lead to happiness. When there is distance with that partner, the close person becomes distant and the marriage breaks up, then the world becomes hell.

Parents spend as much money as they can for the happiness of their children and give them two pairs of hands together. So that they are well. But it takes less time to break a relationship than it takes two strangers to build. This is happening more now. Divorce rate is increasing day by day.

Divorce is increasing alarmingly in Bangladesh Currently, divorce is increasing at a massive rate in Bangladesh. According to a data of Bangladesh Bureau of Statistics (BBS), divorce is increasing among educated husband and wife. The proverb 'Sansar Sukher Hai Ramni Gune' is breaking down with the passage of time. Ten years ago, 70 percent of divorces were from the male side. And in recent times, 80 percent of divorces are from the girl's side. In the two city corporations of Dhaka, 50,000 divorce applications have been filed in the last 6 years. In other words, one divorce case is filed every hour, whereas an average of 7 women are divorced every hour in Saudi Arabia. The divorce rate in Bangladesh has increased by 34 percent in the last seven years.

There are numerous reasons behind every divorce. The biggest cause of divorce is 'miscommunication' between husband and wife. Wives claim husband's suspicious attitude, relationship with adulteress, personality conflict, dowry, going abroad and not coming back, drug addiction, Facebook addiction, impotence, morality and other reasons for divorce. Again, the husband is divorcing his wife for various reasons, including not following the Islamic Shari'ah, disobedience of the husband, bad temper, indifference to the family, not having children.

When one of the couple is away for professional reasons or abroad, the distance increases without realizing it. Women's empowerment, women's economic development in many cases becomes an eyesore of the husband or his family. Many divorces are caused by this emotional crisis and tension. However, there is no account of how many divorces are happening due to mental illness. These include OCD, Bipolar, Personality Disorder, Drug Addiction.

But how to prevent this divorce? After knowing everything, how to bring mental change to those who are on the path of divorce, let's know those things today.

1. Maintain Financial Balance Quarrels in marriage begin when the supply of money is less than the demand. No one wants to listen to anyone from upper and lower class families. They do what they say. Members of upper class families think that they have a lot of wealth, so separation will not be a problem. And in low-class families, the difference in expectations and achievements between husband and wife is more. Most of the women in the family do not get much as per the demand, the scarcity persists. As a result, quarrels arise. So to have a happy married life limit your needs within your income. It can be seen that the head of the family has to bear most of the expenses of the family and therefore both husband and wife should adopt a middle approach regarding the expenses of the family.

2. Keep yourself fit Always try to keep yourself fit. Take your partner with you when shopping for clothes or other essentials. Want to know his preference, which will suit you better. Consider what your partner likes to wear. While choosing clothes, be careful not to upset your partner because of your clothes. Doing this will make him feel more important in your life. Regarding food, sometimes fix your menu according to his choice.

3. Compliment your partner to avoid divorce Never talk down to your partner to prevent divorce. Be it in secret or in front of anyone, give up such behavior. Give constructive comments on any task big or small to encourage your partner to work. Make expressions that make your partner feel strong and motivated. If for some reason you feel like you can't see the feeling of love in your partner, take the help of those three sweet words. 'I love you' is just three words but three words have a lot of power. Repeat the word "love" to him and give him some cues that will make the partner feel emotionally uplifted.

4. Spend some alone time No matter how busy you are, find some alone time to bond with your partner to avoid divorce. Give your partner at least 15 minutes of alone time each day. Eat meals together at any time of the day. Eat on one plate if possible. And if you can't spend the whole day due to busyness, at least you can have a sincere conversation during dinner. You can tell your partner how you feel about different things. This will increase his respect for you.

However, it may not always be the case that the two will have the same preference. So learn to appreciate and respect each other's choices. For example, if a person wants to listen to music, he should be given that opportunity if he wants to listen to music or watch a movie. Never try to force your choice on your partner. It will crack about you. Because everyone has their own preferences and hobbies. In fact, if both have different likes and dislikes, the interest is greater.

5. Keep the mindset of sacrificing to avoid divorce. Make some concessions for your loved one. In order to have a happy family, you must have the mentality of giving up. Suppose you want everything to be perfect. But the partner is busy or he may be sick or unwell. If some work is not to your liking, give a little concession. Every human being has virtues as well as faults. Both are people. So if you cannot accept both the faults and qualities of the partner, the family cannot be sustained.

6. Partner's Best Friend Honsukhi The biggest key to married life is friendship. Married life will be good only when you respect your partner, know each other well, understand each other. So try to be your partner's best friend. Then your partner will easily reveal all his secrets to you.

Your wife or husband needs to understand what kind of behavior they expect from you. You have to understand what kind of words you like to hear and act accordingly. Express your love for him in such a way that the partner is happy. There is no need to give gifts that you like but not hers. He should give what the partner likes. Discover what the partner is interested in. Or what type of speech or action is more preferred. Never ignore his likes or dislikes.

7. Do household chores together. Instead of assigning any task to one person, do it together. It should not be the case that your husband or wife does all the housework alone because he or she is not working. Always help your partner in cooking and housework. This will deepen the relationship between the two. Besides, children need to be seen and given time.

8. Don't Suspicion for No Reason to Avoid Divorce Find out the reason before suspecting each other. Do not suspect one another without reason. Small talk or arguments are very common in married life. So, if the husband or wife behaves aggressively in a small argument or fight, then their married life will be disrupted and it is one of the predictors of divorce.

Language related to 'always' or 'never' does not bring good results in the relationship when the partner is angry. Happy couples avoid the 'you're only thinking of yourself' and 'you're too selfish' group talk. They usually open up to their partner when they are hurt by each other. In a happy couple, no one says condescending things or tries to dominate the other. They believe that they are both equal and suitable partners for each other.

9. Regular Physical Relationships Prevent Divorce Couples who are not happy in their physical relationship are more likely to divorce and remain unhappy in their marriages. Medical checkup before marriage is mandatory in developed countries, but it is not practiced in our country. Many times after marriage it is seen that the husband or wife is unable to bear children, as a result the relationship becomes bitter due to various sexual problems. It's normal to have some initial discomfort with a complete stranger. But this issue often creates a gap between couples. Marital strife can be avoided by consulting a doctor as soon as possible and deciding what to do next, regardless of the physical problem.

10. Get the help of elders in the family before divorce, find out the reasons why they want to end the marriage. In this case, family members can try to find a solution through discussion. But it is always an effective strategy to avoid breakup. Try to introspect and increase understanding before you magnify any problems in your marriage. Understand what is wrong with you. Sit yourself down with the mistakes on both sides. discuss Commit to correcting your mistakes and try. Then ask the other party to correct the mistake.

Close relatives of the couple also take into account the mistakes of both parties. Ask your child to correct their mistakes. Don't blame others or cover up any mistakes. In most cases, this problem arises after two families sit together. It breaks the family instead of joining together.

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If someone wants to get married then he should first think about both positive and negative aspects of marriage. One has to think about what kind of changes may come in life after marriage. Similarly, if you are thinking of leaving your partner or getting a divorce, there are several things to think about. Marriage life should be managed in such a way that you can be happy and satisfied. May marriage continue as a symbol of beautiful relationship, until the end of creation.