Fear before marriage causes 'cold feet'

Almost everyone feels doubts, worries or stress before marriage. And this matter is called 'cold feet' or 'cold feet' in the language of psychology. 'Cold fit' is basically a term used to describe the feeling of uncertainty before tying the knot with a f

Almost everyone feels doubts, worries or stress before marriage. And this matter is called 'cold feet' or 'cold feet' in the language of psychology. 'Cold fit' is basically a term used to describe the feeling of uncertainty before tying the knot with a future partner. This term is mainly used in a symbolic sense.

'Cold feet' before marriage

Psychologist Hasibul Azim Akash said, cold feet happens when fear or anxiety about an unknown thing works. But this matter works much more in the case of marriage. Fear works from the thought of whether I can or not, whether this will happen to me.

According to Jocelyn Charners, a clinical psychologist based in New York, USA, cold feet is an 'umbrella term' for the fear, doubt and anxiety that people experience after deciding to marry. If a cold fit occurs, anxiety can play into things like how compatible the two will be in the relationship or how long the relationship will last. Issues such as disagreements, differing goals in life, or concerns about differing expectations for the future can also cast a shadow of uncertainty over decisions.

Manjurul Ikram, who works in a private company, said that sometimes "the first thing that comes to mind is that I will not get married." This is a symptom of cold feet. There are several other characteristics that can tell if someone is suffering from cold feet before marriage: For example, the person develops feelings of intense doubt. Many times before marriage, a person suffers from doubts about the future of himself and his partner, whether the person whom he likes is right for him or whether the time is right for marriage. Even if you want to get married – that feeling works too. There is also a kind of skepticism at work about making a lifelong commitment. Sometimes the thought of breaking up the marriage also plays in the mind.


However, not all things are very public. Many people act in intense anxiety around wedding planning, but they themselves do not realize that this is due to cold feet.

For example, if someone breaks down in tears thinking about what color to wear to a wedding or where to go on their honeymoon, it may not be because they want to be perfect about everything, but because they are afraid of marriage. And finally there may be frequent quarrels with the partner and other behavioral changes.

According to psychologist Hasibul Azim Akash, it is important to discuss some issues openly before marriage. Marriage is mostly based on good looks or good income. But that's not the end. In this case, philosophy of life is necessary. As an example, Akash said, if it is important for someone to stay in the country or do a government job, and his future partner wants to settle outside the country - then there is a danger of trouble between them later.

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Problems can also arise if someone wants his future partner not to work after marriage, but the person he is considering marrying wants to continue working after marriage. To ensure that such issues do not cause trouble in the future, it is necessary to discuss in advance. By doing this, even if cold feet appear later, it can be easily overcome. Cold feet can also be reduced by talking with family and friends. Finally, it is important to understand yourself. It should also be understood whether the issues that are coming up are solvable or not.

 


Monirul Islam

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