Even if the relationship with a loved one ends due to some reason, you have to manage yourself and move forward on the path of life. For whatever reason, the relationship had to end. You are left with confusion, random moments and a bunch of memories. Maybe wanted each other, but life got in the way. Maybe you both have changed or life has changed.

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Adapting to this change is not easy. So let someone, who is not for you, go out of your life slowly, step by step. The closest person is no longer yours. But at the end of the day, you have gained more than what you thought you lost. It's time to put the broken pieces of the mind back together.

Bring to light aspects of the relationship that were not fully illuminated until now. Since mind and body are identical, there is no way to exclude anyone. There is no alternative to focusing yourself to move towards what you hope for and what you really want to achieve.

Focus on work, enrich yourself. Regular exercise, yoga, exposure to sunlight and adequate sleep will make your day more beautiful. Keep positive thoughts. If desired, draw something in watercolor on white paper.

Many people find solace in nature, so even if it's not possible to go somewhere far away, adding some plants to your home or changing the set-up of the room will help your mind slowly adapt to the new. Think of new insights through this process. The time to heal is now.

This process of breaking down and rebuilding is called 'Kintsugi' in Japanese. Where the broken pieces of pottery are reattached with gold plating and the gold plated ceramic pottery becomes more aesthetic and attractive. Also valuable. The joy of finding new possibilities in life in the midst of breaking yourself will one day bring healing to your heart.

'Existence is change, change is maturity, maturity is self-constant creation.'
—Henry Bergson

As much as you try to convince yourself that everything was going well, the relationship was fine—it wasn't. The fact is, at some point, this bond could not hold equality. There is no alternative but to accept and move on. This change in life will make you mature, strengthen your morale and teach you to look ahead.

But you can never blame yourself in this situation. Learn to let go of these misconceptions that I could have tried a little harder, taken a little more time, or if I had gone to him with a little more plea, everything would have been fine. Because the truth is, you were tied up with someone who wasn't committed to you or the relationship was already fractured at some point.

It's time to learn to free yourself rather than carry the memories of such an uncertain man. You will remember him, of course, but less than the initial strong feelings. And already you will learn to live with that feeling. The suffocating restless feeling of morning, afternoon and night is no more. There are memories. But your mind will learn to realize that the memories were too heavy to carry. One day its bitter taste will not be felt anymore.